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Magic Trick: How to get all your groceries without stepping out of the house.

February 17, 2017February 17, 2017Leave a comment

I have always loved doing groceries. Its been one of my favorite things since I was a kid mostly because back then it used to make me feel like a grown up. Now that I am a grown up, it still feels great, but what I don't like about it is the amount of time … Continue reading Magic Trick: How to get all your groceries without stepping out of the house.

First Anniversary – The Present

January 12, 2017January 12, 20173 Comments

We recently celebrated our first anniversary and it was nothing that we planned we'd do on the day yet it was perfect. Faizan and I decided to keep it low key. Do a small lunch with the family (never happened!), go to our favorite place for dinner (never happened). He decided he'll take the day … Continue reading First Anniversary – The Present

One year later – What I learned (Part II)

January 6, 2017January 6, 20177 Comments

As promised, I nagged Faizan till he gave up and decided to have a conversation with me about everything that he learned during the past one year as a married person.If you missed the post I did about my learnings, you can find it here. So without wasting anymore time, I'll get to his part right … Continue reading One year later – What I learned (Part II)

1 Year Later – What I learned.

January 2, 2017January 2, 20179 Comments

Before I begin this piece, I want to clarify that whatever you read below is based on my personal experience and thought process. I completely understand that people lead different lives and not everyone will be able to relate and understand so when we reach that point, we will just move on accepting that fact … Continue reading 1 Year Later – What I learned.

Giveaway Week – Winner no 10

December 31, 2016January 25, 20173 Comments

CLOSED NOW! Before I announce the final winner for this year's giveaway, I have something to say to you guys. Thank you everyone who participated.I was genuinely overwhelmed by the number of entries and tried to fit in as many winners as possible (I started out with 3 winners and ended up having 10!) but … Continue reading Giveaway Week – Winner no 10

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There is NO such thing as a NORMAL delivery. You either go for a vaginal birth or opt/have to get a C-section for a number of reasons. None of them is easy and in no way vaginal birth any more normal than a C section. In our soceity women who go for a C-sec are often looked upon as a failure which blows my mind away. Many women actually end up in severly complicated states putting both themselves and their children in danger just because they dont want to be called weak or that they took the easier route (which btw in no way is easy). There should be absolutely no shame in opting for a C-section whether its based on need or someone wants to go for it voluntarily. Similarly in a vaginal birth a lot of women dont ask for epidural either due to the myths around it or because they dont want to be told that rhey didnt experience real labor. A woman should be able to go in knowing all her options, prepared for anything, without any pressure or guilt. I feel sad that there is a need to even make this post. And I am genuinely sorry for referring to my delivery as 'normal'. Child birth is child birth. Its difficult no matter how the baby comes out. Don't go around saying crap to those who decide to go either way and if you find someone labor shaming a new mother, call them out on it because this really needs to stop. #RantsofaDesiBride #InstaBlog #instaBlogger #PakistanBlog #Pakistan #PakistanBloggers
Everyone will tell you to have a child after you get married but no one will/can ever prepare you for what comes next. Labor itself is something that makes your body want to go on a vacation. But you obviously dont and cant. We all have seen and heard about the non stop feedings, the sleeplessness, the freaking out over everything - but you only truly understand how hard it is when you go through it yourself. Apart of that there are things that you've never even heard of: the hormonal changes, how you become incredibly paranoid and the lack of sleeps sometimes makes you feel crazy. You forget what day it is because day in and day out it's the same routine. Some days you realize at 5pm that you haven't washed your face. The soul ripping pain you feel if your child is uncomfortable. How real PPD is etc. There are days when you feel like you just can't do it anymore and just want to break down and cry. But then one day, your baby starts responding to your voice, the next day she poops while your husband is changing her diaper and you laugh like crazy, another day she looks at you and smiles. You think she is just passing gas (lololol it's true, if you thought your 3 day old baby is smiling is over you coo'ing, sorry, it's just gas) but it becomes a thing Everytime she looks at you, she smiles and your entire life starts looking beautiful. Days go by and it starts getting better - Some of it you get used to, some of it you learn to deal with and some of it actually gets better. You also start noticing the incredible moments and appreciating God more as you watch your child grow. You start enjoying them more and more. I feel like this post sounds too dark hahah but I am just here to tell you how it actually is. I am not here to scare you but just to prepare those who are Mashaa'Allah expecting or planning to have a child for what's coming because no one ever told me and I was like WHAT just happened. Be prepared for a challenge but also be prepared to love more than you've ever loved and have a heart fuller than ever. #RantsofaDesiBride #InstaBlogger #InstaBlog #PakistaniBloggers #Pakistan
Never thought I'd see Faizan look at someone else with so much love. lolololol. Love comes out even more zour se now that Faizan is back to work after his 2 week paternal leave. 2 weeks. Matlab 10 working days. That’s how much fathers get off in this country to take care of their newborn kids and their partners. A friend of mine actually got 3 days when he had a baby. ONLY 3 DAYS. Let that sink in. From the few weeks that I’ve been a parent, I’ve realized how important the first few weeks are. It takes a while before you adjust to the new life, where you are responsible for a tiny human being and are getting into a routine that seems impossible at first. The time Faizan was off from work, it seemed much more doable to me. He would take care of the burping, diaper changes and putting the baby to sleep at night so I could get some much needed rest. Other than that, this helped him develop a bond with his child and also allowed him to learn how to take care of his baby on his own, without anyone’s help. Now even if he wants to do the night duty or spend extra time chilling with Sophie, he cannot because he has to wake up early morning for work. Men in our country get as low as none to 2-3 days as paternal leave. So even if they wish to be an actively present during their child’s first few months, they cannot. Because they do not have an option. As an employee they have a duty towards their employer and since the primary role of a father is to provide for their family, they feel compelled to go back. Its extremely unfortunate. As a result of this, the woman doesn’t get enough help at home and ends up at her mothers. Father never learns how to really take care of his own child and the whole “drop the kid to nano’s house” culture starts everytime the mother has to run some errands because the father can’t look after the kid alone. In my opinion, fathers should be given a minimum of one month off so that they can support their spouses, be there for the early days of their child and develop an understanding of how difficult parenting truly is. Would love to hear your thoughts on this issue. Mein tou bauhat annoyed hoon. #RantsofaDesiBride #InstaBlog #InstaBlogger
The entire process of child birth, starting from pregnancy till after the child is born cannot be termed as easy even if you had the smoothest of journeys. Each step comes with its own challenges and all these things tend to take a toll on you emotionally and physically. Everywhere you go, you get a new set of advice. Everyone wants to help. . But nothing, I repeat NOTHING helps like a good partner and support system. People who are around you just for you, to make each stage easier for you. Ensuring your comfort, making sure you get what's best for you, dealing with your hormones like a champ - it's not easy for them but they do it anyway. I know my pregnancy wouldn't have been half as easy if it wasn't for Faizan, during labor when I was sure I was going to die Faizan kept telling me I wasn't haha and if it weren't for my mother and my mother in law, I don't know how on Earth I would've dealt with baby S once we got home. I got insanely overwhelmed and they took care of the baby while Faizan was taking care of my PPD spells. Alhamdulillah for them because I know I wouldn't have lasted a day without these people. If you have a friend or partner or siblings who is expecting or just had a baby; make yourself available to them. But don't impose. Ask them what they want and if they wish to be on their own, give them their space. Most people wish to have a child, but only once you have one of your own you realize how difficult it truly is. Want to share do's on dont's of how to be around a pregnant woman/new parents but that's such a long post I'll keep it for another day. Till then 🤗. #RantsofaDesiBride #InstaBlogger #InstaBlog #PakistaniBloggers #Pakistan
4 years today. Mashaa'Allah. #RantsofaDesiBride #InstaBlogger #InstaBlog #PakistaniBloggers #Pakistan
Overwhelmed by the love and prayers we received during the last few days. Forever grateful to Allah for bringing you all in my life: people who I may have never met or known personally, but who still care about me and my family genuinely. Alhamdulillah for all of you ♥️. There are some questions I've been getting like crazy and while there are some that I want to answer in detail so will take my time for those since baby got all the attention right now, here are a few of the questions I've been getting too many of: 1. Were you pregnant during your Turkey trip and is it safe to travel during pregnancy? - *Yes* I was just starting my 7th month when we travelled. It's usually safest to travel during the 2nd trimester but I still got a full check up done and got an approval from my doctor before I took the trip. 2. How did you not look pregnant? - I DID look pregnant. I however didn't show properly till my 8th month. Before that I looked like I was gaining weight from all the pizza I was eating lol. The pictures that you guys saw were one of a million we took to make sure that I don't even slightly look pregnant because I was not comfortable with the idea of sharing my pregnancy on social media. This picture is the one of those I decided against uploading then cuz bump was showing. 3. Did you have a c-section or normal delivery? - It was a normal delivery. 4. How did you manage work and pregnancy together? - Work actually helped keep me very distracted and sane during the whole time. It kept my mind off the aches and the nausea. I was working till 10 days before Sophie was born and honestly later I was thinking I could've actually gone on for another week haha. 5. Are you going to still work? - Of course! I am currently on maternity leaves but I'll be inshaa'Allah going back to work in a couple of months. I'll be answering more questions soon inshaa'Allah. I want to discuss pregnancy, labor and post baby life with you guys in detail so not going to rush into it right now because want to do justice to it. Till then, keep your duas coming because we can never have too many ♥️. #RantsofaDesiBride #InstaBlogger #InstaBlog #PakistaniBloggers #Pakistan

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