Category: RANTS

Soul Sisters Pakistan – Spa Date

Last weekend I attended the Soul sisters spa date and it was absolutely incredible. Long post ahead, but since SO many of you asked me to tell you all about it on my snapchat and instastories, I don’t want to miss out on any details, okay?

When Kanwal (super awesome person who runs Soul Sisters Pakistan) invited me to the event, I didn’t know what to expect. She gave me a bit of an idea of what the event was going to be like but I was not exactly sure how it was going to work out. Over a 100 women, connected basically just through a Facebook group meeting up and me (being in my current anti-social workaholic phase) – wasn’t sure it was going to be my scene, but since I really like Kanwal and she promised me good food and spa services, I decided to go and check it out.

As soon as I entered, two nice girls welcomed me, checked my name on the list (Did I mention that this is a very exclusive invite-only event and only 100 something out of over 36000 girls on the group get to attend? This is when I start feeling extra special hehe), put a band on my wrist (just like the ones you get at a concert or a high security event. Feeling extra special part II), then they also gave me a small token to get a free magnum from the magnum bar that I love very very much and asked me which spa service I would like to avail and I decided on a foot massage. They handed me a coupon for raintree (its one of the absolute best places in Karachi to go to for a massage. Extra special part III) and then I officially entered the venue. Ran into Kanwal foran hi miraculously, considering she was insanely occupied and she was as sweet as ever. Had a tiny chat with her and then I decided to check the place out.

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First thing I noticed was how pretty the event décor was. It was one of those beautiful Karachi evenings, so that kind of added to the whole thing as well. LOVED the table arrangements.

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To be honest I felt a little overwhelmed. There were too many women around me, talking like they’ve known each other for ages. I really couldn’t figure out where to sit or who to talk to (the ghost of the anti-social present was haunting me). Then I ran into a friend from work and I stuck by her like a 3 year old sticks with his/her mom at a dour kay rishtadaar ki baiti ki shaadi. We went and sat a table with around 6 other girls. They were all having these really interesting conversation about life and work and a lot of other things. Since I am usually always hanging out with my pillow or my husband, this was very different, but in a good way. Its funny how much you learn about people in such little time, I heard so many very beautiful stories. I will respect all those lovely ladies ki privacy and not share them here, but take my word – it all made me realize how much people go through and how strong they are even when they don’t always realize it.

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Had some incredible food and then I excused myself from the table and decided to go around and check out the place. So it was divided into a few sections. On one side all 3 spa setups were in action. Girls were getting massages and their nails done etc. I went to the rain tree booth and bloody hell it was the best decision of my entire life. I love massages and I love nothing more than a good foot massage. I am always on my feet at work since I have the beemari of walking when I am on call and job is such that I am on the phone most of the time so my feet have been suffering quite a bit. I made myself comfortable on one of those big fluffy chairs and asked the nice lady at the booth to go crazy. BEST.TIME.EVER. It wasn’t one of those rushed massages that you usually get, specially if you have a voucher or something. She took her sweet time and It was just perfect. LOVED it. TOO MUCH.

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Went and got my beautiful magnum with all these very safe toppings (they had crazy stuff like red chili flakes etc). There was a maybelline booth in one corner where a lot of girls were getting makeovers. Rafhan booth with the best God damn desserts ever. A sunsilk photobooth that I feel like an idiot for not getting a picture taken in but koi baat nahe. And of course there was a green tea stall by lipton to wash it all down. 900 chohay kha k hajj ko chali type scene hahaha. So you get the point, it was a super happening event. Activity ALL over.

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One of the best parts about this event was meeting a lot of you guys. THANK YOU for giving me so much love at the event. I love love love meeting you guys randomly so this was crazy having so many of you coming up to me and giving me your pyar. Pappi for all of you beautiful girls.

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When I was heading back home, they gave me this ginormous goodie bag, with too many really cool things. Matlab food, massage, ice cream AND gifts. I know now why girls go insane to get a ticket to this thing haha. Just kidding – don’t kill me girls. I AM JUST KIDDING.

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Kanwal giving her best smile while I am probably in the middle of a full pait dance move after having all that delicious food. Also this was the best picture out of all that we took that day LOLLLL. 

Thank you once again Kanwal was inviting me. I just want to commend this woman for 1. Making this group where so many women feel protected and at home 2. For managing it so professionally. It’s that safe space for many women where people pour their hearts out and have so many others to help them with whatever it is they are going through. May it be post marriage issues or just figuring out how to clean a burnt pateela – its all there. I have been a part of the Soul Sisters Pakistan group for somewhere around a year now and even though I am guilty of not being an active member (Sorry Kanwal, please don’t kick me out. PLEASE DON’T. ) I do quite often just go over the posts made by all these other incredible women and gain a lot of strength and inspiration from them.

Click HERE to check out Soul Sisters Pakistans facebook page and HERE to join the SSP Facebook group.

(Its a closed group so you have to be accepted by the admin of the group to be able to become a part of it. If you are a woman and you are nice, you are most likely to be accepted)

 

 

Monrostudio – No more VS BS.

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Going inner wear shopping in Pakistan means devoting an entire day to the cause. You literally have to go all over the city to find a place that sells decent, comfortable stuff and the entire time you are praying in your head for your sister/cousin/friend to return soon from another country so you can order your stash from there. At the end you end up buying something you don’t love or feel too comfortable in but end up buying it anyway because a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do.

One of the most asked questions on this blog is where to find comfortable, affordable and great quality inner wear in the country and I finally have an answer to that.

Monrostudio is an online lingerie store that is an answer to all our inner wear questions. I received a package from them not long ago to check out their products and I can very confidently say that it is definitely some of the best stuff I have seen, not just in Pakistan but over all. SO SO impressed.

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GREAT fit and super comfortable which came across as an even bigger surprise to me because something always is off when you order inner wear, specially bra’s without trying them on first. Killer stuff. Another thing that is not too related to the product but is too cool to be ignored is their packaging. The products arrive in these really sexy boxes and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t get too excited about the product before even seeing it just because the box had that effect on me.

They have some great designs and even though they have just recently launched the brand, they have quite a decent collection. Its all pretty affordable too, their bra collection starts from Rs 2,500 and panties start from Rs 900.

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These boxes are taking away my heart.

What I liked about the brand was that they are not only focusing on selling good quality lingerie in Pakistan, but also making a point to create awareness regarding the importance of inner wear among the women here. The entire conversation about bras etc is one of those that girls whisper about, feeling embarrassed like it is something to be ashamed of even though its a part of our everyday life. Many girls are so hesitant in actually getting advice that they end up buying stuff which is not perfect for their body type and end up getting various diseases and dealing with many issues such as backache etc. Monrostudio has a blog on their website that addresses various issues faced by women in our country and its a great read. You can check it out on: http://monrostudio.com/blog.

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It is really important for us to know about our bodies and what’s best suited for it. Really glad to see an international standard local brand in the country, I highly recommend it to all you guys and just because these guys are awesome and you guys are my favorite people in the world, you guys can win a gift voucher for a 25% discount on any purchase of your choice on their website!

All you got to do is:

Follow Monrostudio and Rantsofadesibride on instagram
Like Monrostudio and Rants of a Desi Bride on Facebook.

and comment “DONE” here in the comment section or under the MonroStudio post on Facebook/Instagram.

Once again, DO check out their website if you want to get good quality lingerie before you open one of those international websites. You will NOT be disappointed. I promise.

Magic Trick: How to get all your groceries without stepping out of the house.

I have always loved doing groceries. Its been one of my favorite things since I was a kid mostly because back then it used to make me feel like a grown up. Now that I am a grown up, it still feels great, but what I don’t like about it is the amount of time the entire process takes up most of the time. Sometimes I am extremely tired or late in bed on a Saturday afternoon mentally deciding that this is how the rest of the day will be too, when my help comes in and informs me that we are out of everything. Everything.

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One option is to simply order food, but then its more than just about food. You have clothes that need to be washed, so you need washing powder, dish washing soap, shampoo, shower gel and the rest goes on. So basically, you say a big screw you to all your weekend plans and get up to go and get the groceries done.

Well, not anymore.

I was recently contacted by this local Online Grocery Store called Fresh DirectThey told me a little about their website and asked me to check out their services.

Fresh Direct is the website of any household-responsible-grocery-buying-persons dreams. They have everything available, from fresh fruits and vegetables to Personal Care items to Snacks to General Items. The website is still new so their range is a little limited, but everything that you need on a daily basis is already there, so you might want to go check it out.

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When they asked me to try their services, I decided to order a bit of packages stuff but I was more interested in checking out the fresh items (fruits, vegetables) because its very simple to get boxed stuff delivered online but the quality of fresh items is what was going to either win or break my heart. So along with some random stuff, I ordered a few fruits and vegetables and I was not disappointed. The produce looked hand picked, fresh, no rotten pieces were sneaked into my bag so that made me super happy and I felt more confident about this entire online shopping thing.

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I got a call from their customer service representative shortly after placing the order and they asked me for the time I wanted my order delivered. I gave them the time and my order was delivered right on time. They do same day deliveries so you don’t have to worry even if you need some stuff super urgently.

I personally found the prices very reasonable too, nothing too less or high than what is currently the market rate for all the available products, so I think I am going to be a regular customer.

Its incredible convenient, you can order your groceries from home in five simple steps.

1: Open the website (www.freshdirect.pk)
2. Add all your required products into your cart (It works like any other online shopping store)
3. Go to the check out page
4. Provide contact information and delivery address
5. Place order and then simply wait for magic to happen.

Currently they are only operating in Lahore (sorry everyone else!). You get free delivery on an order over RS 1000 so woohooo! AND they also deliver home cooked meals, however they don’t have an option for that on their website, but if you are interested in checking it out, you can give them a call on their number +92 300 6271627. They deliver orders between 10:00AM and 6:00PM.  You can also check out their facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/freshdirect.pk to stay updated about any deals or discounts that might be up on their website.

You guys should totally give this service a try. I swear, I felt so cool ordering all my groceries while in my pj’s under my comforter. Beautiful feeling. Gonna go do it again for this weekend. Join meeeee!

First Anniversary – The Present

We recently celebrated our first anniversary and it was nothing that we planned we’d do on the day yet it was perfect.

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One year to this day of posing and not letting rukhsati happen till I’ve had my fair share of biryani

Faizan and I decided to keep it low key. Do a small lunch with the family (never happened!), go to our favorite place for dinner (never happened). He decided he’ll take the day off from work (He did, but had to go at the last minute due to a work emergency). We weren’t sure if we wanted to exchange gifts but then we though that first wedding anniversary will only come once, so why not.

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Exhibit A of why we will always remain fat 🙂

I initially decided to get him some stuff that he liked and wanted but something or the other kept on happening and my plan kept of getting screwed. I had saved up money and knew exactly what I wanted to get him till I figured he didn’t need it. His present BLEW ME AWAY (Not going to say here what it was, instead will do a post on that here soon. If you follow me on snapchat or insta you already know what it is!) and that’s when I realized the only thing important in a present its the emotional and sentimental value that goes into a present and not how fancy it is or the monetary value.

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So I got him a box full of stuff that he loves to eat (all sorts of chips, chocolates, ice creams, cookies etc) and I made him a coupon book.

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I gave myself a hell lot of work through this coupons. Things you do for love.

So basically it consisted around 10 coupons that he can redeem at any time. I put in stuff he likes doing/does not like doing so I can do them etc and he LOVED it (The most important thing of course!). Super easy to make and extremely valuable without tearing a hole in your wallet. All you need is a sketch book sheet/chart paper that you can cut into any shape you want for the coupons, markers and a brain. hehe. It can be easily made for birthdays, anniversaries etc and not just for your husband/wife but for anyone. Could be for your parents, your siblings, friends etc.

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I made tiny drawings too. Hehe.

Will do a separate post on his present soon because its insane, I love it too much and it deserves a post of its own. See you then.

One year later – What I learned (Part II)

As promised, I nagged Faizan till he gave up and decided to have a conversation with me about everything that he learned during the past one year as a married person.If you missed the post I did about my learnings, you can find it here.

So without wasting anymore time, I’ll get to his part right away.

Me: TELL ME WHAT YOU LEARNED DURING THIS PAST YEAR
Faizan: Ask me questions
Me: NO FAIZ. Just tell me. 
Faizan: Tell you what?
Me: EVERYTHING YOU LEARNED.
Faizan: Okay. let me think.
Me: NO. NOW. (I am so annoying uff taubah.)

Now that you know the background, I’ll get down to what he said:

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Even shared some important secrets with Fauzia at our valima. I take this very seriously. LOL.

1. Communicate – At All Times
Communication is the key. Make sure you share everything about your day with your partner. Make them feel more involved in all parts of your life even the ones they don’t necessarily understand too well. Don’t hide anything thinking that the person might get mad or pissed off, tell them right away. How they react might just surprise you. Knowing that the person can completely trust you and you can completely trust them makes married life a lot more easier. No secrets, no matter what.

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If you don’t give her love,  there is a high chance she will fall in love with an international superstar.

2. Respect And Love Your Wife
Its something so basic, but so so important in any marriage. You get respect when you give respect. your wife is not just any other person, its something you are bound for life with, in order for her to be happy, she needs and deserves to feel safe, loved and respected at all times. Do not cross the line, never say anything that would hurt her deeply or hurt her at all. You know what they say, happy wife = happy life and who doesn’t want a happy life eh?

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Happy father in law = Happy wife = Happy Me.

3. Accept Her Family As Your Own
Its different for boys when it comes to accepting the wife’s family. The girl usually moves in and its just a matter of time before she learns to care and love for our families like she does her for her own because they spend so much time together, living in the same house. However, since our interaction with the in laws is relatively limited (I am talking from my own experience, being in a different city) it takes a little more time.  Be nice to them. Respect them like your own family. And NEVER EVER say anything mean or hurtful about them anywhere. Not to your wife, not to your friends, not to your own family, not even to yourself. Its just wrong and extremely hurtful to them and your partner.

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You can appreciate the person anyway you want. This is how I do it.

4. Appreciate. Always Appreciate.
Its very easy to get stuck in a cycle where your wife does everything for you and you just make it a part of your routine and don’t acknowledge it as something nice/special. Wrong. Always appreciate, even the smallest of things. She has the option of not bringing you breakfast but she does that herself rather than simply asking the maid or asking you to do it yourself. Appreciate that. I have a very hectic work schedule (most of you know that, thanks snapchat!) but not once did Fauzia ever complain because she understands but if she didn’t I would make her understand and then appreciate her for being so patient. I have always been so at peace from that side that I never had to worry about late sittings. I never said it enough initially but now I make it a point to do that and I can see her mood change entirely just by hearing those few nice words.

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I think I’ll sue her soon for snapchatting me all the time without consent. Just kidding. Or am I..

5. Be Supportive
Its pretty self explanatory, the statement, so I’ll share our own story with you here. Fauzia is a full time blogger now. Blogs are very slow and it takes along time before you establish a proper audience and monetize your work. She has always been extremely career oriented (which is one of the things I love about her) and worked at some really amazing places, being independent, earning a lot of money. From that to completely switching to this seemed a little weird and even I couldn’t understand it though my own sister did the exact same thing. People don’t see blogging as a real career here in Pakistan and in all honestly neither did I. But then I saw her passion for it and how invested she was into this whole thing. I started reading all her posts regularly, liking them to show my appreciation and very often gave her feedback, both good and bad. I really like how she feels confident enough about choosing this field now and it shows how every time I take a stand for her or I tell her how much I liked something she posted she gets more motivated. Goes on to show how much a husband’s support means to a wife and I hope I support her the same way in all her life and career decisions.

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Travel, even if its just an incredibly fun road trip to Multan.

6. Travel Together
You learn so much about a person when you travel with them. It doesn’t have to be abroad or to an expensive, fancy place. Anywhere works. Just take out the time, save some money and go travel.

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Our quality time requires a lot of random face making and pictures.

7. Spend Quality Time Together
For someone with a busy work schedule its not easy to do much together on a daily basis.So what you should do is find that one thing that you both have in common and commit to it. Like watching an episode of your favorite TV show before sleeping, going out for a small drive, go get juice or coffee or ice cream, play one hand of cards. This time is essential for you both as a couple and also helps you forget about your stressful day and makes your partner happy. Makes up for all the lost time and its really easy to do too.

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Throwback to an awesome Kings of Leon Concert we attended back when we used to be young and cool. LOLOLOL

8. Remember, Being Married is a LOT Of Fun
I remember how before getting married I often felt really worried about all the responsibility that was coming with the wife, but Alhamdulillah having a good partner in life really washes away all these concerns. I married my friend, someone who loves and understands me at all times and that makes me realize how much difference a good wife can make in your life. Doing small things together everyday, watching movies, ordering food, fighting over who fills the water bottle at night, just sitting and discussing world issues or watching funny videos on youtube – everything is fun. I’d do it again if I could (before she subjects me to domestic violence) with Fauzia of course. LOL.

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Hello, goodbye!

9. Be proud of being her husband
Introduce her to your friends, your colleagues. Be proud of the person that she is. Accept her with all her flaws and all the differences. Accept her importance in your life as a partner, a friend, a guide.

Thats it from me. Its all pretty generic, but I hope you people enjoy and learn something from it! Bye now.